Nobody ever told me I could control my own life. From school to university, various relationships and jobs, I always felt as though someone or something else was steering the course of my life.
A few months ago, I realised that I had been giving away my power to make decisions. By shifting the blame or responsibility (in my head) to outside myself, I didn’t have to take the wheel. I was scared to live the life I really wanted. If you don’t try, you can’t fail, right? WRONG!
As soon as I started making changes for myself, everything started to fall into place. I began to have a sense of direction and purpose that I had been longing for. I have always wanted to teach yoga since I was a teenager, but always told myself it wasn’t a ‘sensible’ career choice. At 25, I took a deep breath, researched online and found a Yoga Teachers Training Course and booked myself in – they had been fully booked, but someone cancelled on the same day that I applied! This was the sign I needed that in order to get an answer, you have to ask the question first!
Changing your life all starts with the desire to create something for yourself. Nobody else can tell you what that is. Your heart’s desires are yours alone, and it is up to you to honour them by taking the steps to make it happen.
I’m not saying it will happen overnight (although sometimes it will!), but here are some things I’ve learned on my journey of change.
1. Take time to prioritise
This is an important step. Ask yourself what your life would look like if you had no limits, no financial worries. Forget about what others will say or think about it, just freewheel for a moment. Write or draw your ideas. Make it concrete.
Take as much time as you need on this step, and revisit it as often as necessary. You can meditate on the answer, ask your angels for guidance, or simply sit and daydream about it. Make sure you have a space where you can be by yourself, and allow anything to come up without judgment.
2. Work from gross to subtle
Create the framework before filling in the minor details. When you look at the major criteria for health, joy and vitality, does your current life match up to your standards?
For me, I like sunshine, ocean, friendly people, plenty of access to green outside spaces… Obviously then my life would not be working if I lived in a cold country, far from the sea in an isolated apartment block and no access to greenery!
In order to create meaningful change in your life, you have to be willing to stand for the things that make you happy and work to bring them into your life. The lives we lead are almost entirely created by our attitudes and decisions. Every choice we make can bring us closer to or farther from our dream life.
3. Decide the ‘what’, create the ‘how’
The greatest thinkers come up with a hypothesis first, then create the path towards proving it. Einstein’s theory of relativity still doesn’t have a ‘how’.. but the ‘what’ still stands! Don’t worry about the ‘how’ – focus on the ‘what’.
What do you want to bring into your life?
What do you want to change?
Try this: Sit quietly with your breath for a few moments. Feel the ever-present flow of breath at your nostrils. Notice your breath become more steady, calm and deep.
With your eyes closed, create a clear image of your desired change in your head, visualise it.
Don’t just see it, feel the feeling of it being real. Use all your senses: does it have a taste, a smell? Can you touch it? Get as close to it as you can. Allow it to be vibrant and detailed. Take as much time as you need.
Know it to be so. Say it aloud or silently to yourself, using language like “I am,” not “I will be.”
You have just created a powerful intention. It is an inner knowing that you are already beginning to create change in your life. By focusing completely, you have started to attract the elements necessary to bring this reality into alignment with your life. The more awareness you place on your intent, the more you will start to notice opportunities as they present themselves. Say yes!
Change does not come from outside. Do not wait for change to come knocking on your door. Only you can create change for yourself. It is a very real gift that most people do not realise they possess.
Once you know what you desire for yourself, trust that you can make it happen.
You have infinite bliss inside yourself and you have the key to unlock it!